Random Musings About Life

I had an interesting conversation yesterday regarding “short women’s” preference for taller men and the frustration it ‘gives’ some of our shorter stature brothers. As is the case with many things in life, I tend to over-analyze and I can make connections between seemingly unrelated topics – for my 'rider' friends, bear with me because - THIS connects to riding! Recently I was asked by a 6'2” man if I (at a mere 5’0”) prefer tall or short men to which I responded, I prefer awesome men. So, what is one trait (to me) that makes a man ‘awesome’ or less so -- simply put – his riding skills – or – his lack of them. As a woman who is passionate – some may say addicted - to riding, it is important to me to always be improving my skills and to understand the dynamics of riding alone vs riding in a group. When a man has great riding skills; THAT - in my opinion - is sexy as hell. When I ride with a new group of people, I tend to hang in back to watch. I ‘find’ those whose...

Sometimes you meet a person and so much lines up, but not everything.   You’re in two different places and as much as you may want to walk a path with that person, it isn’t possible for whatever reason.    There are some who will try to convince the other, bend them to their will because they want it so much.  But such action is futile and it isn’t love.  It is more like obsession.    You can't control other people and you can't make them feel what you feel. With people, you can like them, care about them, hell you can love them for that matter - and if you really do love them, then what you want is what is best for them and what is best for each person is for them to be exactly who they are.  That is real love.  Love is not possession - it's about wanting the best for another person, even if that means seeing them walk a path that doesn’t parallel yours!

On more than one occasion, I've been asked, “Why are you still single”?  As though being single is an affliction or a disease.  I am not still single.  I have had relationships, lovers and more than one husband.  No, I am not still single.  I am simply, single. Living alone – making my own choices without having to consult anyone or having to think whether the choice is good for the relationship, never mind whether it’s good for me gave me an opportunity to be selfish, to point my focus completely inward, to do ‘my work’, to understand myself and what it means to be a good partner and to have a healthy relationship.  I’ve spent several years in this mode and now, when I am ready for a relationship, when I am a partner worth having, I have found, it still doesn’t guarantee I’ll find the right man.  Why am I still single?   Because I know my worth.  I know what I need and want and what I am willing and able to give in a rela...