Why Am I (Still) Single?
On more than one occasion, I've been asked, “Why are you still single”? As though being single is an affliction or a disease. I am not still single. I have had relationships, lovers and more than one husband. No, I am not still single. I am simply, single. Living alone – making my own choices without having to consult anyone or having to think whether the choice is good for the relationship, never mind whether it’s good for me gave me an opportunity to be selfish, to point my focus completely inward, to do ‘my work’, to understand myself and what it means to be a good partner and to have a healthy relationship. I’ve spent several years in this mode and now, when I am ready for a relationship, when I am a partner worth having, I have found, it still doesn’t guarantee I’ll find the right man. Why am I still single? Because I know my worth. I know what I need and want and what I am willing and able to give in a rela...